I hear it all the time…
A bunch of
excuses reasons for why my clients haven’t been able to reach their weight loss goals on their own.
- “I don’t have time to prepare healthy meals.”
- “I don’t like exercising”.
- “It’s too cold to go for a walk outside.”
- “I’m not sure how to lose weight.”
- “I don’t know what foods I should be eating.”
- “I’m too tired to prepare healthy snacks for myself.”
- “I can’t give up my nightly bowl of ice cream.”
- “I’m don’t know what exercises to do to lose weight.”
I think I’ve heard them all now.
All of these excuses are really weight loss obstacles – things that stand in your way and prevent you from achieving your weight loss goals.
Some are totally ridiculous to me, such as not feeling like exercising.
And others, while still obstacles, are totally valid (think late night snacking or sugar cravings).
Whether your specific weight loss obstacles are real or imagined, one fact remains true:
You must overcome those obstacles if you are going to lose your unwanted body fat.
Otherwise, you’ll just be spinning your wheels.
In this article, I’m going to share with you the one thing you can do to crush every single one of the obstacles standing in your way.
The Powerful Why
Knowing your why – your real purpose – for wanting to reach your weight loss goal can have a wonderfully powerful effect on the outcome of your success.
Most importantly, knowing your “why” will motivate you to continue doing the work necessary to reach those goals even when you’re faced with the most challenging of obstacles.
Think of your own personal weight loss obstacles – things that have prevented you from reaching your ideal body weight. Having a reason for wanting to lose that weight that you can be passionate about will greatly increase the chances of overcoming and eliminating them.
Your why must be strong and generate enough passion and commitment from you to carry out your action plan until your goal is achieved.
Really, having a strong why will make your “how” (your action plan) that much easier.
The truth is, at the end of the day when you’re tired and feeling lazy, there’s 1,001 things that need to be done, and there’s a pizza staring at you in the face for dinner, you’re going to eat that pizza every damn time if you don’t hold your why close to you.
The only way you’re not going to eat that pizza is because you are passionate about your why.
Now let’s look at what a powerful why looks like…
Examples of “Whys”
Here are some of the most compelling and powerful whys I’ve coached my clients to develop over the years:
- “My boyfriend broke up with me because he wasn’t attracted to me anymore.”
- “I want to be alive and healthy to walk my daughter down the isle at her wedding.”
- “I want to set a healthy example for my young children who are beginning to pick up my unhealthy habits.”
- “My doctor told me I have an elevated risk of stroke and I don’t want to live like that.”
- “I’m getting married in 6 months and want to look like a million bucks walking down that isle.”
Here are a few examples of whys that have failed to be powerful enough to keep clients motivated to reach their weight loss goals:
- “I want to fit into an old pair of jeans.”
- “I want to feel better.”
- “My husband asked me to lose a few pounds.”
- “I want to have more energy.”
- “My triglycerides were high on my last blood test.”
Do you see the differences between the two groups of whys?
The first group of whys have a lot of emotion attached to them. They are things you can be passionate about achieving – things so strong you can’t help but be motivated in times when it may be easier to do nothing.
The second group of whys, however valid and wonderful, simply aren’t emotional or powerful enough reasons, in most cases, to continue moving forward – especially when your favorite ooey-gooey pizza with all the toppings is dropped in front of you.
When using the strategy above to discover your powerful why, it’s my experience that you’ll probably make an initial list of whys from the second group.
Let’s take a look at how you can develop your own powerful why…
How to Discover Your Own Powerful Why
Discovering your own powerful why for why you want to reach your weight loss goals is fairly simple.
However, after having asked hundreds of weight loss clients to do this exercise, I can tell you with certainty that just because it’s simple won’t make it easy.
Admittedly, some people “get it” right away and come up with the most amazing whys.
Others think they’ve come up with compelling whys but realize when they encounter another weight loss obstacle that it simply wasn’t powerful enough of a reason to navigate around the obstacle and continue forward.
Here’s how to come up with your powerful why:
1. Make a list of reasons why it is essential that you reach your desired weight loss goals.
2. Go back through and cross them all out.
3. Try again.
4. Choose the one “why” that you think will really motivate you to get started on your weight loss journey and continue down that road even when you don’t feel like it anymore.
5. Test your why by repeating it like a mantra over and over again when in the face of one of your personal weight loss obstacles.
For example, let’s say that your powerful why is that you are getting married in 6 months and want to look like a rock star walking down the isle in front of all your friends and family.
One night when you get home from a long day at work and there’s a ton of housework to do and wedding planning to complete you realize you didn’t take the time to plan or prepare any healthy meal for that evening. The easiest and quickest thing to do is simply order a pizza and have it delivered.
Is the why of looking like a rock star for your wedding in 6 months a compelling enough reason to stop you from ordering that pizza?
If yes, then that’s a great why.
No? Keep working at it.
Wrapping Things Up
I always tell my weight loss clients this one harsh reality (and I don’t mean to be a downer here):
The truth is that the only person you can rely on in this world is YOU. Only you can decide to make your lifestyle shift. Only you can motivate yourself to make those shifts. Only you can decide to keep moving forward.
You cannot rely on your family. You cannot rely on your friends. You cannot rely on me.
While your family, friends and coaching from me can help you (and we are here to do that), you MUST rely only on yourself to reach your goals. Whether you do or whether you don’t – it’s on you.
And knowing your WHY is what’s going to carry you on home.
I’ve conveniently added the contents of this blog post into a presentation you can flip through or download to have access to any time:
Now I have a question for you…
Have you had trouble losing weight in the past because obstacles keep getting in your way? What is your powerful why that can help you overcome these obstacles next time you encounter them?
Please leave your answer in the comments section below.
Also, I just taught you the strategy for CRUSHING your weight loss obstacles. Could you please share this article with any of your friends and family that could benefit from this information?